اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْتَخِيرُكَ بِعِلْمَكَ، وَأَسْتَقْدِرُكَ بِقُدْرَتِكَ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ فَضْلِكَ الْعَظِيمِ، فَإِنَّكَ تَقْدِرُ وَلَا أَقْدِرُ، وَتَعْلَمُ، وَلَا أَعْلَمُ، وَأَنْتَ عَلَّامُ الْغُيُوبِ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنَّ هَذَا الْأَمْرَ- خَيْرٌ لِي فِي دِينِي وَمَعَاشِي وَعَاقِبَةِ أَمْرِي- عَاجِلِهِ وَآجِلِهِ- فَاقْدُرْهُ لِي وَيَسِّرْهُ لِي ثُمَّ بَارِكْ لِي فِيهِ، وَإِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنَّ هَذَا الْأَمْرَ شَرٌّ لِي فِي دِينِي وَمَعَاشِي وَعَاقِبَةِ أَمْرِي- عَاجِلِهِ وَآجِلِهِ- فَاصْرِفْهُ عَنِّي وَاصْرِفْنِي عَنْهُ وَاقْدُرْ لِيَ الْخَيْرَ حَيْثُ كَانَ ثُمَّ أَرْضِنِي بِهِ

Allaahumma ‘innee ‘astakheeruka bi’ilmika, wa ‘astaqdiruka biqudratika, wa ‘as’aluka min fadhtikal-‘Adheemi, fa’innaka taqdiru wa laa ‘aqdiru, wa ta’lamu, wa laa ‘a’lamu, wa ‘Anta ‘Allaamul-Ghuyoobi, Allaahumma ‘in kunta ta’lamu ‘anna haathal-‘amra-[then mention the thing to be decided] Khayrun lee fee deenee wa ma’aashee wa ‘aaqibati ‘amree – [or say] ‘Aajilihi wa ‘aajilihi – Faqdurhu lee wa yassirhu lee thumma baarik lee feehi, wa ‘in kunta ta’lamu ‘anna haathal-‘amra sharrun lee fee deenee wa ma’aashee wa ‘aaqibati ‘amree – [or say] ‘Aajilihi wa ‘aajilihi – Fasrifhu ‘annee wasrifnee ‘anhu waqdur liyal-khayra haythu kaana thumma ‘ardhinee bihi

O Allah, I seek the counsel of Your Knowledge, and I seek the help of Your Omnipotence, and I beseech You for Your Magnificent Grace. Surely, You are Capable and I am not. You know and I know not, and You are the Knower of the unseen. O Allah, if You know that this matter [then mention the thing to be decided] is good for me in my religion and in my life and for my welfare in the life to come, – [or say: in this life and the afterlife] – then ordain it for me and make it easy for me, then bless me in it. And if You know that this matter is bad for me in my religion and in my life and for my welfare in the life to come, – [or say: in this life and the afterlife] – then distance it from me, and distance me from it, and ordain for me what is good wherever it may be, and help me to be content with it. Whoever seeks the counsel of the Creator will not regret it and whoever seeks the advice of the believers will feel confident about his decisions. Allah said in the Qur’an: “And consult them in the affair. Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah.”

Al-Bukhari 7:162

Muslim parents and teachers must recognize that the age range from six to twelve years old is a crucial period for Muslim girls. After the age of twelve, a girl becomes accountable for every sin she commits, and as a future mother, she will play a key role in raising children and taking care of family affairs. Islamic training during these formative years is essential to strengthen her character and prepare her to support future generations. If a girl deviates from Islamic guidance due to a lack of Taqwa, it can lead to a loss of Iman and negatively impact many generations, as she is the backbone of the family.

For anyone who loves their children, it is imperative to train them according to the law of Allah and the teachings of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), regardless of whether they live in Western or any other society.

It is our duty to save them from Hellfire by teaching them that after the age of twelve, they are responsible for every sin they commit. The period before twelve years old is their training ground for life. If they want to be true Muslims, they must learn how to obey Allah.

Key Steps in Their Training:

1. Understanding Tawheed Through Logic and Science: Teach them about the existence of Allah in a way they can understand, using logic and science, not just through Quranic verses or Hadith. Explain how Allah exists and governs the world.

2. Building Taqwa (Consciousness of Allah’s Presence): Help them understand that Allah is the source of all life, including the oxygen we breathe. Explain that every cell, tissue, and body part depends on oxygen, which is provided by Allah. If Allah were to stop the oxygen supply, no amount of money or medical treatment could sustain life. This understanding should instill in them the importance of obeying Allah and following His commands, regardless of their age or wealth.

Role of Parents and Teachers:

• Regular Reminders: Parents and teachers should regularly remind children about the importance of Tawheed and Taqwa, ensuring they grasp the concept of Allah’s existence and develop a healthy fear of disobeying Him.

• Islamic Etiquette and Dress: Teach them to love Islamic manners and appropriate dress. As they reach puberty, they should learn and apply all Islamic requirements.

• Understanding Segregation: Educate them about the necessity of segregation, except for interactions with their brother, husband, and son.

• Avoiding Un-Islamic Celebrations: Explain the dangers of participating in non-Islamic cultural celebrations like Valentine’s Day or Christmas. Make them aware that indulging in such activities can lead to Allah’s anger.

• Encouraging Home Cooking: Encourage cooking as a hobby and emphasize the importance of enjoying family life. Discourage eating out at restaurants frequently.

• Life’s Transitory Nature: Regularly remind them that life is temporary and that everyone must return to Allah. Teach them that they must fulfill their duties towards Allah.

1. What is the significance of discussing marriage planning at an early age?

   • Explore the importance of introducing the concept of marriage and its role in a girl’s future life, focusing on building a foundation for understanding its significance in Islam.

2. How can parents and teachers explain the wisdom and benefits of marriage from an Islamic perspective?

   • Discuss the spiritual and practical benefits of marriage, emphasizing how it fulfills half of one’s faith and contributes to a balanced life.

3. What are the key qualities to look for in a future husband according to Islamic teachings?

   • Teach girls about the importance of choosing a spouse based on piety, good character, and compatibility, referencing Hadith and the Prophet’s advice on marriage.

4. How can the example of the Prophet Muhammad’s (peace be upon him) family inspire young girls in their understanding of marriage?

   • Use the examples of the Prophet’s wives and daughters to illustrate the virtues of good character, patience, and support within marriage.

5. What role does family guidance play in the marriage planning process?

   • Explain how parents and teachers can guide young girls in understanding the importance of family involvement in selecting a spouse and preparing for marriage.

6. How can the concept of ‘infinity life’ or eternal companionship be conveyed to young girls in the context of marriage?

   • Discuss the Islamic belief in eternal companionship in the Hereafter and how marriage in this life is a preparation for a partnership that can last beyond this world.

7. How can parents motivate their daughters to take an active interest in understanding Islamic teachings on marriage?

   • Share methods to engage young girls in learning about marriage, using stories, role models, and real-life examples that resonate with their experiences and aspirations.

8. What are the practical steps parents can take to ensure their daughters are well-prepared for marriage in the future?

   • Provide guidance on how parents can educate their daughters on the responsibilities and expectations of marriage, emphasizing the importance of emotional and spiritual readiness.

9. How can teachers integrate the topic of marriage into the broader Islamic curriculum for young girls?

   • Suggest ways for educators to incorporate teachings on marriage within Islamic studies, ensuring that it complements other aspects of the girls’ spiritual and moral development.

In Islamic teachings, the responsibilities towards parents and family are deeply intertwined with the concepts of Taqwa (God-consciousness) and Tawheed (monotheism). As a son, husband, and father, understanding these responsibilities is crucial for maintaining harmony and fulfilling one’s duties effectively. The following 35 questions aim to explore the balance between familial obligations and spiritual consciousness, highlighting the wisdom derived from Quranic teachings and the guidance of Sh Touqeer Ansari, founder of QuranExplains.com.

1. Why is it important for a son to fulfill his responsibilities towards his parents regardless of their age?

2. How does the concept of Taqwa influence a son’s duties towards his parents and wife?

3. What does Tawheed teach about respecting and caring for one’s parents and spouse?

4. How can a son effectively balance his responsibilities towards his parents and his wife?

5. What Quranic references emphasize the respect and care that a son should have for his parents?

6. How can understanding Taqwa help a son manage his relationship with his mother-in-law and wife?

7. What are the key teachings from the Sunnah regarding the treatment of a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

8. How did the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) model respectful relationships between family members?

9. How can a husband ensure that his wife feels valued and respected while maintaining his duties towards his parents?

10. What are the responsibilities of a husband towards his wife in light of Islamic teachings?

11. How should a son approach conflicts between his wife and mother-in-law?

12. What practical steps can a son take to prevent arguments and maintain harmony between his wife and mother-in-law?

13. How can a mother-in-law treat her daughter-in-law with kindness and respect, as guided by the Prophet’s example?

14. What role does mutual respect play in resolving conflicts between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

15. How can a daughter-in-law show respect to her mother-in-law while fulfilling her own family duties?

16. How can understanding the sacrifices made by parents during pregnancy and upbringing affect a son’s sense of duty?

17. What Quranic verses highlight the sacrifices parents make for their children?

18. How can a son’s awareness of his mother’s hardships during pregnancy and upbringing shape his behavior towards her?

19. What is the significance of fulfilling responsibilities towards parents and family in the context of Islamic monotheism (Tawheed)?

20. How can a son balance his financial responsibilities towards his parents and his own family?

21. What does the Quran say about the financial support a son should provide for his parents?

22. How can a son and husband manage their time to fulfill their duties towards both parents and family?

23. What are the consequences of neglecting one’s responsibilities towards parents and family according to Islamic teachings?

24. How can a husband ensure that he is fulfilling his duties to his wife while maintaining his responsibilities towards his parents?

25. What does the Sunnah say about the emotional support a husband should provide to his wife and family?

26. How can a son show gratitude to his parents for their lifelong sacrifices and support?

27. What are the benefits of practicing Taqwa in managing family relationships and responsibilities?

28. How should a son handle financial contributions to his parents when he is also financially supporting his own family?

29. How can the teachings of Sh Touqeer Ansari guide a son in balancing familial duties with spiritual responsibilities?

30. What are the specific Quranic commands regarding the treatment of parents and the respect for family relationships?

31. How can a husband and wife work together to maintain respect and harmony with their extended family?

32. What role does supplication (dua) play in maintaining family harmony and fulfilling responsibilities?

33. How can a son apply Islamic teachings to prevent and resolve conflicts within the family?

34. What lessons can be learned from the lives of the Prophet Muhammad’s (peace be upon him) family in managing family responsibilities?

35. How can a son ensure that he remains steadfast in fulfilling his duties towards Allah, his parents, and his family, even when facing challenges?

Wisdom and Analysis

1. Balancing Duties: It is essential for a son to balance his responsibilities towards his parents and wife by recognizing that both roles are important in Islam. Islam emphasizes the importance of treating parents with kindness and respect, while also ensuring that one’s spouse is treated with love and care.

2. Respect and Harmony: The teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) emphasize mutual respect and harmony in family relationships. Practical steps to prevent arguments include open communication, empathy, and understanding the unique roles each family member plays.

3. Understanding Sacrifices: Awareness of the sacrifices parents make, particularly during pregnancy and upbringing, fosters a deeper sense of gratitude and responsibility. This understanding can motivate a son to honor and support his parents more diligently.

4. Financial and Emotional Balance: Balancing financial responsibilities involves managing resources wisely and ensuring that both parents and immediate family are provided for. Emotional support involves being present, showing empathy, and maintaining a positive relationship with all family members.

5. Taqwa and Tawheed: Practicing Taqwa helps maintain a consciousness of Allah in all actions, ensuring that duties towards family are fulfilled with sincerity and respect. Tawheed reinforces the importance of fulfilling these duties as part of one’s submission to Allah.

6. Resolving Conflicts: The Prophet’s approach to resolving family disputes involved patience, fairness, and seeking resolution through mutual understanding. This approach can be applied to modern family dynamics to maintain harmony and respect.

7. Supplication and Spiritual Fulfillment: Regular supplication helps in seeking Allah’s guidance and maintaining a positive and harmonious family environment. It reinforces the importance of spiritual connection in managing familial responsibilities.

By adhering to these principles and teachings, a son and husband can effectively manage his responsibilities, respect family dynamics, and fulfill his duties towards Allah.Avoid jealousy???